🌿 Revisit #13 — Me Tarzan, Me Lonely:
The Echo of Silence (When Two People Live Together but Feel Alone)
The Echo of Silence (When Two People Live Together but Feel Alone)
Loneliness hits differently when the person you love
is only inches away
but emotionally miles apart.
It’s not the loneliness of being alone —
it’s the loneliness of being unseen,
unheard,
unfelt.
This is where Tarzan finally realized the jungle wasn’t loud anymore.
It was hollow.
The laughter had faded.
The spark had dimmed.
The conversations had dissolved into routine.
He wasn’t just missing Jane’s presence —
he was missing connection
with the woman who once felt like home.
And Jane?
She was lonely too —
but her loneliness sounded like resignation,
while his sounded like echo.
🌸 What Tarzan Was Really Feeling
Tarzan didn’t understand his own loneliness at first.
He just felt heavy.
Untethered.
Like he was walking through life with someone
but not with them.
He missed Jane’s eyes.
Her laughter.
Her curiosity.
Her gentle teasing.
The ease with which she once reached for him.
But now she felt far away —
not by distance,
but by heart.
He wasn’t lonely because he didn’t love her.
He was lonely because he didn’t know how to get her back.
Inside, his thoughts whispered:
“How did we get here?”
“Why can’t I reach her anymore?”
“Does she even want me the way she used to?”
He didn’t want space.
He wanted her.
But he didn’t know how to bridge the silence.
🌿 What Jane Was Really Feeling
Jane’s loneliness was older.
Quieter.
It had settled into her like a familiar ache.
She wasn’t angry anymore —
she was numb.
Not because she didn’t love Tarzan,
but because she didn’t believe he wanted to hear her truth.
Loneliness had taught her to stop reaching,
stop hoping,
stop expecting.
She told herself:
“This is just how we are now.”
“He doesn’t want to talk.”
“What’s the point? It won’t change anything.”
She didn’t want to be distant —
she just didn’t want to be disappointed again.
She wasn’t lonely because she lacked love.
She was lonely because she lacked connection.
🌿 Where the Communication Clogged
Tarzan thought reaching out meant risking failure.
Jane thought reaching out meant risking rejection.
Both stopped trying
because trying started to feel worse than silence.
Their silence didn’t come from not caring —
it came from caring so much
that it hurt to admit how far apart they’d drifted.
Loneliness grew where words had died.
🌿 How It Could Have Gone Differently
What Tarzan could have said:
“I miss you — not your presence,
but you.
I feel lonely beside you,
and I want us back.”
What Jane could have said:
“I’m lonely too.
I stopped reaching because I didn’t think you wanted to hear me.
But I want us back as well.”
What they both needed:
A conversation acknowledging the loneliness
Intentional reconnection
Emotional vulnerability
Small gestures of closeness
Daily check-ins
Shared rituals
Rebuilding intimacy slow and steady
Loneliness in a relationship is reversible —
but only when both partners admit the ache.
🌿 Series 3 Intimacy Insight
Loneliness doesn’t mean love has died —
it means connection has gone hungry.
The cure isn’t proximity.
It’s presence.
🌴 Jungle Laugh:
“Tarzan feels everything… he just does it loudly, messily, and three hours later.”
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