🌿 Revisit #12 — Me Tarzan, Me Distant:
The Jungle Between Us (When Distance Becomes the New Normal)
The Jungle Between Us (When Distance Becomes the New Normal)
There is a kind of distance that doesn’t happen overnight.
It happens slowly —
inches at a time.
A missed glance here.
A quiet night there.
A conversation left unfinished.
A touch that doesn’t linger.
Before anyone realizes it,
the jungle between two hearts grows thick and wild.
Tarzan didn’t mean to pull away.
Jane didn’t mean to stop reaching.
But the silence between them stretched,
and stretched,
and stretched…
until neither of them knew how to cross it anymore.
This revisit reveals the inner worlds behind Tarzan’s withdrawal
and Jane’s ache to be chosen
long after the choosing had grown complicated.
🌸 What Tarzan Was Really Feeling
Tarzan wasn’t distant because he didn’t love Jane.
He was distant because he didn’t know how to come close anymore.
Inside, he felt:
Overwhelmed.
Underqualified.
Emotionally clumsy.
Afraid of failing her… again.
Distancing was his way of avoiding conflict,
avoiding shame,
avoiding the feeling of not being enough.
He told himself:
“She needs more than I know how to give.”
“If I lean in, I’ll disappoint her.”
“It’s safer to be quiet than to get it wrong.”
Distance wasn’t his betrayal —
it was his retreat.
But retreat feels like rejection
to the one left alone on the shore.
🌿 What Jane Was Really Feeling
Jane didn’t want Tarzan’s perfection —
she wanted his presence.
When he pulled away,
she felt abandoned.
Unvalued.
Like she was slowly losing the person she once knew intimately.
She wondered:
“Why won’t he talk to me anymore?”
“Why does he feel so far away even when he’s right here?”
“What did I do?”
The distance made her feel undesired,
and that pain sank deep —
down to the place where self-worth and attachment intertwine.
She wasn’t angry he was quiet.
She was heartbroken he was gone
without ever leaving the room.
🌿 Where the Communication Clogged
Tarzan withdrew to protect himself.
Jane reached to protect the relationship.
But the more she reached,
the more he retreated.
The more he retreated,
the more she panicked.
Both interpreted the other’s actions as proof of something untrue:
Jane: “He doesn’t want me.”
Tarzan: “I can’t do anything right.”
Their survival strategies clashed —
connection died in the collision.
🌿 How It Could Have Gone Differently
What Tarzan could have said:
“I feel lost and overwhelmed.
I don’t want to drift from you —
I just don’t know how to reconnect.”
What Jane could have said:
“When you pull away, I feel unimportant.
I need your effort,
your presence,
your voice.”
What they both needed:
A reset conversation
Honesty instead of assumptions
A shared ritual to reconnect daily
Space, but not separation
Emotional transparency
Reassurance
Touch, eye contact, and soft re-entry into intimacy
Distance breaks hearts,
but truth builds bridges.
🌿 Series 3 Intimacy Insight
Emotional distance doesn’t mean the love is gone —
it means the connection is starving.
Closeness isn’t something you feel.
It’s something you build
deliberately,
consistently,
courageously.
🌴 Jungle Laugh:
“Tarzan shut down. Jane powered up. Opposites, baby.”
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