🌿 Revisit #10 — Me Jane, Me Doubting:
Am I Enough? (When Insecurity Becomes the Shadow Between You)
Am I Enough? (When Insecurity Becomes the Shadow Between You)
There’s a moment in a woman’s heart when she stops feeling chosen.
Not unloved — loved is easy.
But chosen.
Desired.
Wanted on purpose.
That moment changes everything.
It turns small critiques into wounds.
Slow responses into rejection.
Shifts in tone into threats.
Distance into fear.
Jane wasn’t needy.
She was human.
She wasn’t insecure —
she was unanchored.
And because Tarzan didn’t understand her deep internal spiral,
he didn’t know that her question —
“Am I enough?”
— wasn’t about beauty, worth, or comparison…
It was about connection.
🌸 What Jane Was Really Feeling
Jane felt like she was fading in the reflection of Tarzan’s eyes.
Not because he made her feel small —
but because he stopped reminding her she was big.
She started questioning everything:
“Does he still want me?”
“Does he still see what makes me special?”
“Am I boring now?”
“Am I too much? Too little?”
Women don’t fall into insecurity spontaneously —
they fall when the emotional bridge that once held them
starts to creak under silence.
She wasn’t begging for validation.
She was longing for intimacy.
She didn’t want compliments.
She wanted connection.
She didn’t want to be admired —
she wanted to be held in the way only genuine affection can hold a person.
🌿 What Tarzan Was Really Feeling
Tarzan didn’t know her doubt was rising.
He assumed she was confident, strong, steady.
He believed she still felt beautiful in his eyes.
He didn’t realize that even the strongest woman wilts
when she’s watered only by assumption.
Tarzan wasn’t withholding reassurance —
he was unaware it had stopped.
He didn’t know she needed words.
He didn’t know that his silence created emptiness.
He didn’t know that insecurity grows in places where affection goes missing.
Tarzan wasn’t rejecting Jane.
He was drifting without realizing she needed anchoring.
🌿 Where the Communication Clogged
Jane didn’t want to appear insecure.
Tarzan didn’t want to appear clueless.
She waited for the reassurance he didn’t know she needed.
He waited for the openness she didn’t know how to ask for.
Both silently hoping the other would fill the gap.
And the jungle between them got louder.
🌿 How It Could Have Gone Differently
What Jane could have said:
“I’m doubting myself lately.
I need to hear what I mean to you —
not because I’m weak,
but because I’m tired.”
What Tarzan could have said:
“I didn’t know you felt this way.
Let me tell you —
you are still my choice.
Every day.
In every season.”
What they both needed:
Reassurance spoken often
Tender words
Validation without being asked
Emotional transparency
Daily reminders of admiration
Playfulness and affection
Curious questions instead of assumptions
Intimacy doesn’t require perfection —
just presence and truth.
🌿 Series 3 Intimacy Insight
Insecurity isn’t a flaw —
it’s an invitation.
When one partner begins to doubt their worth,
the other has the power
to either heal the wound
or deepen it with silence.
Reassurance is oxygen.
Withholding it suffocates intimacy.
🌴 Jungle Laugh:
“Jane wanted passion. Tarzan wanted a nap. Negotiations continue..”
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