Me Tarzan, Me Clueless: When Marriage Needs More Than “Good”
(Tarzan & Jane Series: Part 1 of 6)
The Setup
Why Tarzan and Jane? Because humor helps us talk about hard truths. “Me Tarzan, me clueless” is the age-old joke—men often say, “Just tell me what you want,” while women wish their husbands would just know.
It’s also the story of pursuit. Men are all-in at the start, chasing with passion. But over time, some wives feel less like a prize and more like a worn glove. Humor softens the sting, but it points to a real issue in marriages today—even long ones that seem solid.
The Storms of Marriage
Tarzan and Jane had been married for decades. They’d raised kids, built a life, and were now empty nesters. By most standards, they had a good marriage.
But storms never stay gone, and most marriages don’t collapse from one hurricane. They erode from the drizzle—the daily neglects that wear away the foundation.
Jane began to feel unseen. She had gently dropped hints, even asked directly about love languages, explaining that hers had shifted—she now longed for touch, affirmation, encouragement. Tarzan tried, but over time the effort faded.
The goodbye kisses sometimes disappeared—or worse, felt forced. The first coffee cup came, but not the refill. For Jane, it wasn’t about coffee or kisses. It was about being noticed, chosen, marveled at—not treated like a test to pass.
The Crossroads
This isn’t just Tarzan and Jane’s story. It’s many marriages. Couples who live like roommates, not lovers. Spouses who still love—but don’t always like. People who give attention to screens, but not to each other.
The good news? It doesn’t have to stay that way. But it requires intentionality. Small daily choices to nurture, to notice, to laugh, to pursue again.
The Takeaway
Marriage doesn’t thrive on autopilot. It thrives when we choose—again and again—to see one another. To marvel. To nurture. To love out loud.
🌴 Jungle Laugh: “Tarzan swore he was listening… Jane swore he was just nodding to the beat of the jungle drums.
💡Because if we couldn’t laugh, we would all go insane — Jimmy Buffett
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