Me Tarzan, Me Defensive: The Walls We Build
Me Tarzan, Me Defensive: The Walls We Build
(Tarzan & Jane Series: Part 11 of 16)
Every marriage hits conflict—but how we respond makes all the difference.
When Jane finally voiced her hurt, Tarzan didn’t lean in. He didn’t ask questions. He got defensive. He explained, justified, minimized. He built a wall.
“Me Tarzan, Me Defensive.” It’s a phrase that brings a chuckle, but for Jane, it brought a quiet ache. Because defensiveness doesn’t protect a marriage—it poisons it.
Walls might feel safe to the one building them, but they only push the other person away. Over time, walls turn into silence, distance, and resentment.
The takeaway?
Defensiveness says, “I want to win.” Vulnerability says, “I want us to win.”
When your spouse shares pain, resist the urge to explain. Listen first.
Walls don’t keep storms out—they keep love out.
Because marriage isn’t about proving who’s right. It’s about building bridges, not walls.
Defensiveness feels like protection, but it actually blocks intimacy. True strength isn’t in defending yourself — it’s in laying down your guard long enough to truly hear.
Call-to-Action:
💬 The next time your partner speaks their truth, pause before you respond. Ask yourself: Am I building a wall, or a bridge?
Jungle Laugh: “Tarzan thought defense wins championships… but in marriage, it just wins arguments nobody wanted!” 🐒😂
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